Plan Ahead: Would you set out on a trip to unfamiliar territory without planning your route? No, you probably would not and the same applies with starting a new business. The main reason many new businesses fail within the first year is for lack of a plan. Do the homework. Find out about the competition. Who else is doing what you want to do? Who is successful at what you want to do? Will you have a storefront? Location is key and if you have selected a weak location, then you must offset this negative with a strong positive: Loads of advertising. Staff: Will you need help and if so, Continue reading
There is some empowerment in saying “I choose”, i.e., I choose to take the job; marry the man; quit the job; have a child, etc. We are always making choices and sometimes not making a choice is of itself a choice. As adults, we should be responsible for our choices; after all, we made the choice to marry, to take the job, to have the child, etc. Our choices are really who we are and who we choose to be. Assess your choices: How do you live? Are you happy with the way you live? Didn’t you choose the neighborhood, the house, the furniture? How about your line of work? Does it bring you fulfillment or are you stagnating at something you dislike? Who chose this work? Many of us are overweight and unhealthy. Continue reading
Many young people in the age group from 20 to 30 years old suffer from low self-esteem caused by emotional abuse in their past. If you don’t know how to build up your self-esteem your life won’t change for the better no matter how old you get. That’s why your self-esteem is so important to you.
The fact that you are 20 years old is not a bad thing. That doesn’t make you a child, if you feel like one. Don’t allow people to tell you that. Being that young make you lucky. You have the opportunities to make your life as perfect as you want it to be. From 20 to 30 years old you develop very strongly. These years are so valuable that it’s important you don’t allow anyone from stopping you in becoming a whole person. You develop your mind and inner soul, and when you turn 30 you’re closer to what your life will bring in the future. Don’t be afraid to grow older. Look forward to seeing yourself in 10 years. Continue reading
By Simona Nielsen
If you’re a writer or another kind of artist you have probably heard the expression ‘Get a real job!’ or ‘You have plenty of time; you’re not working.’
Let’s face it. Some of your family members and some of your friends will never get it. I’ve been a writer for years. It’s given me butter on my bread, salt to my egg – you name it! Whatever I do it won’t be understood by some – or shall we say – MANY people. It happened to me again this Christmas. In these wonderful December holidays where we gather together with our loved ones – the family!
For the 32873rd time I was asked ‘Haven’t you gotten a job yet?’ (!!!) This was my husband’s family, so maybe we should give them some credit. They’ve only known me for six years. Continue reading
Are you dreaming about a relationship that lasts forever, but realize it becomes boring after a while? Then you’re not the only one. Actually, most of us expect that our partner will read our inner thoughts and fulfil them. Otherwise, he/she will be dissed. If you want out of this yo-yo effect you’ll have to find the source for your own inner happiness instead of expecting that others will find it for you.
When you’re in love, everything looks right. You feel alive, whole and up-lifted. It tickles in the entire body and there are no limits of your powers. This wonderful person you’ve met has everything you’ve always dreamt of. The problem is that what you see in the other person are character traits you wish to have yourself, but haven’t developed yet. In this stage of the relationship you hope your partner will provide you with those traits. It can be the ability to be funny, exotic, strong, powerful, or beautiful. The day will come where the “in-love” and ecstasy will be replaced with daily life, and it is here love will stand its test. Continue reading
Do something instead of talking
If you carry around old terror images and a crushing inner voice, it serves no useful purpose to talk to others’ about your fear. You’ll only risk intensifying it by drawing attention to your problems. To ponder about the past or focus on other people’s mistakes won’t do any good either. You must take action and take care of yourself.
Stop your thoughts of disaster
When you’re thinking your plans won’t work, it probably won’t. If you’re always telling yourself, that you are dumb at something, you won’t learn it. If you go out with the thought that no one will talk to you, then no one probably won’t talk to you. The negative expectations will be written all over your face and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Continue reading
Now that summer is here, many working mothers are treated to a well-deserved vacation. We look forward to sleeping late and unwinding. Some of us stay around the house and take day trips, others embark on longer trips. No matter if the trip is short or long; or by car, boat, plane or train; you still have to prepare for bored kids.
When you are on a trip, you hear the famous words “Are we there yet?” or “How long is it going to take to get there?” When you hear these questions (for the first of many times), you have just pulled out of the driveway!
There are lots of ready-made travel games available at stores and they are great entertainment. These games can be played en route and at your destination. Some have small pieces (usually smaller than the standard version of the game) so your kids have to be careful not to lose all the parts. Continue reading
Children of working parents learn they have to carry a lunch to school every day. This has to be the most difficult meal to prepare because if you don’t do it right, there is no second chance. Here are some suggestions that I would like to share:
- Make lunches the night before school & work and put them in the fridge.
- Use an insulated lunch bag. The ones I use have a removable inner bucket and I put the food inside it and then place in the fridge.
- My kids may have different things in their lunches so I have put their names on the outside of each bucket. You may forget what you had put in each bucket.
- Use small freezer packs that can be refrozen every night. Nothing is worse than a cold lunch pretending to be a warm one If you don’t have freezer packs, freeze a juice box overnight and then put in the lunch bag. It will keep the contents cool and will be nicely thawed by lunch time.
- Wrap lettuce separately in a baggie with a sprinkle of water. It keeps it nice and crisp. Continue reading
With 5 people in my family, I am bound to find that not everybody likes everything. It is a real challenge to turn out a meal that will please everyone (or at least a majority). It gets worse when you are running low on groceries and have to put your culinary creativity to a test. Another challenge is getting something on the table in the least amount of time. Nothing is worse than having the kids rolling on the floor with hunger pains or trying to steal snacks to tide them over until supper!
- Plan your meal the night before by taking any frozen meat out of the freezer and put in the fridge
- Gather all your ingredients the night before to make sure you have everything. You may find out you have to run to the store at lunchtime or on the way home Continue reading
Many conversions I’ve had with other working mothers have turned to the subject of when to allow a child to stay home alone. It is an important decision to disconnect your child from daycare, but there is a way to prepare for this milestone.
There is no magic age as to when to do this, but most experts agree that age 12 seems to be acceptable. Of course, a lot depends on the maturity and personality of the child. You must remember that there is a lot of peer pressure and kids will want to be in the same position as their friends. They can be embarrassed if all their friends are allowed to stay home and you have decided they still need daycare.
If you think that daycare is not necessary, but some type of supervision is required, you may want to check out after school programs. Maybe there are programs sponsored by community groups, Continue reading